How often should a couple go to couples therapy?
At the beginning stages of Couples Therapy, it’s important for couples to meet consistently. If there is a crisis, some couples therapy modalities would recommend meeting with a therapist multiple times per week. For relationships that aren’t in crisis, meeting once a week is standard.
What’s important is not letting too much time pass between sessions. Emotional interactions between partners in therapy need to be revisited and worked through, avoiding a session, and skipping a week, can cause more damage and harm in the relationship.
Unfortunately, couples that avoid sessions are likely to be avoidant in their own relationship. The irony is that couples therapy can teach partners the benefits of not being avoidant, only if the avoidant partner doesn’t avoid the session in the first place. When both partners are avoidant, attending sessions regularly is almost impossible.
Make a commitment with your couples therapist and make a plan for how many sessions in a row you can honestly expect to participate in. At least a few consecutive sessions could be better than no sessions at all.
