What is the No Secrets Rule in Couples Therapy?
Depending on which couples therapy modality your couples therapist utilizes, you may encounter an officially stated no secrets rule or policy. Different types of therapy sometimes has each partner talking to the couples therapist individually, this is more often the reason for having a no secrets policy, meaning that the therapist will divulge what each partner has said. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy works with both partners in the room together, and any communication with the therapist always includes both partners at the same time.
Working separately in couples therapy is antithetical to building connection and security, which is why Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) never has partners working individually with their couples therapist.
Any concerns a partner has about the therapy process or scheduling should be brought to the group’s attention uniformly so that everyone can try to mend the situation together.
